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The following text was submitted by Eddie from Sweden and the links at the bottom come from OJAS in the USA.

Welcome to any newcomers who find this thread, for Christ's sake.. READ THIS!
...and save yourself a lot of homework and/or grief


The vast majority of Russian dating scammers are not women at all, but actually men, mostly working in small gangs in or around Yoshkar Ola, in Mari El republic, sometimes in Chuvashia. It's virtually guaranteed that the girls in these scam pics aren't involved because the scammers steal their pics from the internet or pay unsuspecting friends for them, or buy and exchange them on scammer websites. (Once a scammer even admitted to me that he stole all his pics from and ).

Most scammers are VERY lazy and looking for quick cash. They use email extractor programs to get your mail addresses (if you don't have a profile on a dating site, that is)...
and copied form mails and spam programs on automatic reply, very often the BAT!, which can personalize small parts of each letter.

They mostly won't read your letters until after the money letter because they don't have time, ie because they're scamming, or trying to scam, as many guys as they can (economies of scale).....and also because they're semi-literate losers who can't speak much English anyway. IN OTHER WORDS, you can write any crap in your replies and they won't react, they're only interested when they're curious to know if you've taken the bait after the money letter. A girl is only involved either occasionally to phone a guy up, especially if he's suspicious, or to pick up the loot at Western Union, with a false ID of course!

More recently, the majority of Russian scammers have started using proxy servers or forged IPs to hide their locations so ALL YOU REALLY NEED TO DO IS TRACE THEIR IP ADDRESS!

If, by any chance, you don't believe any of this, please read:

So....if several or more of the following scam signs apply to your Boris (the beautiful Russian 'girl' that is supposedly writing to you), resist the temptation to help 'the poor girl' by sending her money. You're really writing to a sleazy Russian guy sitting in a smoky room in Yoshkar Ola, with a bunch of other sleazy guys spamming indiscriminately on laptops .

  • 'girl' writes to you first on a dating site...especially a free one (or an email appears out of nowhere in your mailbox). Real Russian girls are rarely so bold as to write to you first. (unless you're obviously very attractive or rich :))) They will often reply to your mails, but rarely take the initiative. It's the man who does the chasing in Russia. Plus, if they're looking for a partner, they generally prefer him to be Russian speaking and live in Russia. Much more convenient!

  • doesn't answer direct questions (sometimes factual mistakes in the letter). Her replies should be exactly that...replies...however short they are.

  • girl's much too young for you (or too good to be true/looks like a model/porno star)....although I have noticed a recent tendency for some scammers to use photos of slightly 'less attractive' girls as well.

  • girl has some far-fetched excuses for you not visiting her in Russia (criminal city, not the Russian custom, terrorism, it's her dream to come to your country, etc). ALL BULLSHIT!! Actually, the normal way to meet a Russian girl is to visit her in her city first. Russian TV is full of documentaries about Russian girls who have emigrated and got murdered, abandoned, etcetc. They should usually want to meet you first before they gallivant off to your country.

  • scammers rarely have children, but most of the real Russian women I've ever met on the internet did (except for Moscow career girls). It's often the reason that they're looking for a partner.

  • photos are too revealing (can't be a respectable girl). Respectability is very important to most Russian women (especially Moscow career girls). They're hardly likely to send a half-naked photo to a virtual stranger on the internet. Think about it!

  • most of the pics are old and a little bit faded with a curiously grainy quality that soon becomes quite easy to recognise (overuse?). Again a scammer admitted to me that low-quality photos are a key factor in his scamming. I found this curious because a serious Russian girl who's looking for a partner very often saves up and goes to a professional to have a studio set done (often corny ones posing with a chair etc), and/or borrows a digicam at least (dates should also be on the photos you receive). My fiance did it. Russian girls aren't all that poor anymore, and if they seriously want to leave Russia, they know that posting cheap pics will only attract cheap guys.

  • GIRL CLAIMS NOT TO HAVE A MOBILE PHONE. Very unlikely!!! fer f***'s you know a single girl without a mobile phone? Even poor Russian girls can't do without one, they're much cheaper than in Europe and a Megafon telephone card doesn't cost that much either. You should be able to call her whenever you want. On the other hand, not having a landline or a desktop/laptop is very common.

  • very long rambling/ecstatic form letters with a strange format, punctation and layout written in scamlish. (world's worst Babelfish translation)

  • writes long letters everyday in English. How does she have time to write those long letters if she's working? And if she doesn't have a job, how can she afford a computer + internet connection? Even Internet cafs are relatively expensive in Russia. Anyway, most Russians outside Moscow can hardly speak a word of English. (What's the point of finding a girl you can't communicate with, at least on a basic level?) PLUS.. if she can't speak English, why does she have a non-cyrillic email account like gmail or yahoo? Most real Russians use, or hotmail and yahoo are acceptable if she'll chat with you on messenger (preferably with a webcam).

  • falls in 'love' very quickly. Don't let your ego, kind heart, loneliness or lust pull the wool over your eyes. She doesn't really know you. You could be an axe murderer for all she knows. As I mentioned, Russian TV is full of documentaries about Russian girls who have emigrated and got murdered, abandoned, etcetc.

  • uses a proxy server to hide his/her location, ie a SOCKS server / GPRS Internet. if you can't trace 'her' IP, it's 100% scam.
    THE FIRST THING YOU SHOULD DO IS TRACE HER IP ADDRESS. In fact, it's the only thing you need to do really.

    MOST IMPORTANT...if you get this far:

  • she asks for money for a tourist 'visa' and/or maybe tickets, ignoring the fact that IT'S VIRTUALLY IMPOSSIBLE FOR A SINGLE, POOR RUSSIAN GIRL TO GET A TOURIST VISA TO A WESTERN COUNTRY!
    Most Russian girls outside Moscow and St Petersburg are quite poor, and immigration control would consider them an overstay risk. They would never let be let into your country without a healthy bank account.

    She can get a SPONSORED visa with your help, but then she needs a personal letter of invitation from you, a copy of your passport, a proof of your residence in your home country, a completed sponsor's application form (also from you)....not including the documents that she has to fill in herself. She also needs a job in Russia, a letter from her employer and insurance. All of these documents she has to drop off at your national embassy in Moscow WITH PREPAID TICKETS and wait about 10 working days. These are the rules for the Schengen countries anyway...the USA and Canada are almost as, if not more, complicated. Anyway, a normal TOURIST visa + travel costs + hotel rooms would set her back 2000+ US dollars for a trip to the US. She should be asking you for a lot of money! Why should it be so easy for a gorgeous sexy Russian girl just to jump on a plane and fall into bed with you? Anyway, no respectable Russian girl would ask directly for money, but might accept some if you insisted. should check your national embassy website in Moscow for visa prices and procedures.

There are many variations on the scams, some quite slight. Some scammers claim to have a visa already and need money for tickets, a last-minute medical examination, etcetc. Some claim that their mother needs an operation, etcetc. A few more patient and professional scammers will take months before they hit you with the money letter (though if you follow my tips, you should be able to spot the scammers before then). There are even a few real girls scamming, and professional gold-diggers (mostly in the Ukraine). One or two of them are very bold, and not even afraid to use their true identities. These scammers are harder to spot, and there is no easy way to identify them, all you can do is use your instincts and common sense, and DO YOUR HOMEWORK!

and, of course, a golden rule: DON'T SEND MONEY...unless you're 100% sure she's real.

Another ground rule: if you are looking for a Russian wife/partner, you must be prepared to travel to Russia to meet her. You also need to behave generously towards her; after all, you need to prove that you can support here (and her kids) if she migrates to your country. But if she turns out to be a professional gold-digger, which has never happened to me personally or anyone I know (but I know it does happen), you should try to be philosophical and treat it as an exotic trip to a foreign country, have fun anyway, and try not to waste too much money on her.

There are actually hundreds of perfectly nice Russian girls in Russia but you have to be prepared to go and get them. Chercher la femme. It certainly worked for me.

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2015-01-20, 21:47:37
This scammer goes by the name Fatima Iddrisu from Accra, Ghana

2015-01-20, 21:52:43
Miss Marple from United States  

I am sorry that you are scammmed like this and anything the scammer has told you should not to be trusted at all. Scammers lies all the time to people to scam them out of money.Whatever the scammer has told you is just lies! Photos and names are created only to scam with so no real names or photos are used by scammers and thats for very difficult to catch online scammers. You need to cease all connections with this scammer and that means not answer phone calls,reply mails and not even read mails sent from the scammer. I suspect there are several scammers involved in this scam which is very common that West-African scammers do when operating on victims that has started to send money to the scammer. I have a thread created on the section for male scammers on this site where you can also post on. Link below. You are asking this in your post here:
I've googled it and like i said much like the irs but would this hold anyone up if not paid to get back to the US?
This is only scammers stories and the scammer is in Ghana where he is doing the scams from and has never been in this country at all. This is a very typical scammer scenario with the white male that is an engineer from US or UK who travels to Africa for work and end up getting robbed and then asks for money. Please for your own sake cut connections to the scammer and do not tell the scammer what you know or where he is reported as scam.

How you recognize male scammers:
Scam report:

2015-01-20, 22:48:45
Without a doubt, the above pix of the brunette 'Julie Yuliana' the porn model is probably the most circulated on the internet associated with romance scams.
This image was also posted here:
Dating scammer Rhoda Naa from Accra, Ghana
Dating scammer Portia Boakye
Dating scammer Angel
Dating scammer Rhoda Naa from Accra, Ghana

2015-01-25, 22:38:13
anonymous from Canada  
2015-01-25, 22:47:11
anonymous from Canada  
I know I'm being question,is it this person that's doing the scaming. I have more pictures of her. When I checked this site out ,my heart almost droped when I saw her picture. Whoever scamed me got me for over two grand. She goes by the name of maryann tyler. .
2015-01-25, 22:53:07
anonymous from Canada  
2015-01-25, 22:57:20
anonymous from Canada  

2015-01-26, 17:40:34
~Bax from United States  
Friend @ Canada,

It is not her that you have been in contact with.
The criminals remain anonymous by providing ALL fake info.

You didn't say the address that your scammers provided you.
Most of her photos are used by native Africans.
NEVER send money to online strangers in Africa!

It looks like you may have seen her previously reported photos by using the recognizer tags...
To see previously reported information of one gang of African scammers use same tags with this...

This image was also posted here:
Dating scammer Esther Ansomaa from Accra, Ghana
Dating scammer Rhoda Naa from Accra, Ghana
Dating scammer joyce dodoo
Dating scammer Osei Kwesi Accra Ghana from Accra, Ghana
Dating scammer Rhoda Naa from Accra, Ghana
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2015-01-29, 15:43:43   (updated: 2015-01-29, 15:45:59)
anonymous from United States  
Yes, the scammer is Angela Hills Fannor. Met her on and she fell for me. Yes I gave her money and now she wants money for her Passport. She lives in Accra, Ghana. Guys don't fall for her. Because she says she's a true and right woman for me. Don't Believe It! I notified my local Police department and I filled a FBI File. Get Her anyone. She's a scam and con artist
2015-01-30, 17:16:31
anonymous from Canada  
I know this girl as maryann tyler. She had me send money to ohio at first,under the name of luis arce. Said she couldn't pick it up herself,said her I'd was out dated,said he was her sis,s husband. Said her sis,s name was juan. Its a long story. But she ended up in lagos Nigeria,at this cheap hotel. Said she was there to get her fathers legacy. I sent money there by money gram under the name of raymond Timothy UKE. Anyway I guess the jokes on me. For anyone that's fallen in love with this beautiful girls picture,Well my heart goes out to you. It was good while it lasted Hey guys. P.S.,If she really is a porn star please let me know where to find her. Would love to see this beautiful ladys u know what. That would be worth the 2500 I sent.
2015-01-30, 17:34:28
anonymous from Canada  
M3yann tyler referring to wendy lbrahim
2015-02-15, 01:46:03
anonymous from United States  
I was on fortunate to find out that this person is a scammer he/she who knows using these pictures with many different profiles names and everything else luckily I did my research and I did not get scanned I would like to somehow catch this person and I have the ability to because she does not know I know or he or whatever if I can be of any help contact me
2015-03-22, 00:43:59
anonymous from Chile  

2015-04-02, 08:26:24
Yaa sickened by these thieves who use death and tragedy as a bait to would be well wishers. It boggles the mind that genuine problems will never find anyone willing to help through social media because of such abuse. The scammers have now moved into senegal pretending to be helping Ivorians in their refugee camps. The name Duke is featuring a lot as the dead politician who left a daughter. The daughter now seeks help to access her estate in form of money banked with a London bank. You never get a chnce to talk to the girl. it is the paster or a barister who attends to your calls and in faint voices. They speak as they are man of God trying to help an innocent soul yet they want to get money from you. Their targets are professionals on professional web sites or communication platforms. These thieves forget that the professionals do some checks when it comes to transactions and legal matters.
2015-04-05, 09:54:35
anonymous from United Kingdom  
A guy about a month ago added me on Skype, calling him Steven Miller. I asked why he added me and his response was, he came across me from searching for his late wife's friends. I didn't really answer his messages at first, then I thought I would out of curiosity. He quickly told me he loved me and couldn't wait to sign his papers for his resignation from the army. Said he is a 4 star general and a 13 year old son called Charles who was at boarding school. Also said he gave up his home to the orphanage.
I got sucked into his nice and charming comments and liked him. Today I googled his name and came to this site. I feel sick! I'm so stupid! Luckily I found out before I could have been sucked in further, but alarms bells would ring if he ever asked me for money.
Careful, because he sounds genuine and says he has to go out on patrol and has 35 men under him. He's posted me photos of same man on here.

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